Don’t Alienate Your Children from Their Dad

To Be Immune from Parental Alienation Allegations, Just Don’t Alienate Your Children from Their Dad


There is one disturbing side to the fight of some women denying parental alienation syndrome. The rights to be protected against domestic violence and to protect their kids from child abuse are theirs. They consider it as their property, and as Proudhon would say in “Qu’est -ce que la propriété? (What Is Property?), property is more the right to exclude someone else from the enjoyment of a good than that to derive enjoyment from it. The women rights movement, which succeeded in making domestic violence and child abuse against the law, has fought for them and them only. Those fathers and mothers who claim the rights to be protected against parental alienation are just bums and usurpers that have to remain disenfranchised. Domestic violence is about a man beating up his wife and his kids, end of the story. The work of Gardner and others is phony and their authors’ agenda is to help fathers abusing their kids with legal protection.You are Disgusting - 2016

For these women too, family courts have been converted  to the parental alienation syndrome doctrine and are massively granting fathers custody of their kids (I guess, lucky me, I have missed Manhattan family court’s conversion). Hence mothers filing for divorce need to be coached to face the courts’ new biased scrutiny. That’s what is doing in a recent posting, and its advice to mothers is quite telling. Among others: don’t refer to your children as “my” children;  don’t badmouth the father of your kids; keep pictures of your children with their dad; allow contacts between your kid and your ex’s extended family… In other terms, don’t alienate your children from your ex. That’s a start.

How great the world would be if these folks were to understand that mothers’ rights shall not be exclusive of fathers’ rights and the other way around!

January 17, 2010 by fearlessfathers

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Look for “Watch HouseLive.”

E-lert: Let’s Watch the House Vote on VAWA » SAVE: Stop Abusive and Violent Environments

FYI, more work to do!

The Violence Against Women Act reveals structural bias, political gains

Domestic violence is intolerable – and so are gender biased laws like the Violence Against Women Act; acts like this tell an incomplete story of domestic violence for political gain.

The VAWA first started replicating local and state domestic violence laws in 1994. It was hailed then as “landmark” legislation, turning a local issue into a federal one. In 2000 it visited the Supreme Court, where U.S. v. Morrison’s ruling found the law unconstitutional for violating the Commerce Clause and the 14th Amendment.

One formal intention of the VAWA is to fund domestic violence programs. Informal intentions are to provide the opportunity for fake bipartisan celebration while defacing opponents every time the bill is voted for re-authorization. Last Thursday, the U.S. House voted 286-138 in favor of the bill, reciprocating the Senate’s 78-22 vote last month.False allegations of abuse is a crime - 2016

Proponents are so adamant for this legislation that legitimate objections for debate are always squandered to demagoguery. This is the first of a long list of issues this law hides under its thick framing effect that automatically produces an improper assumption: anyone who’s against it must be pro-women’s violence.

Surface-level framing hints at underlying structural problems. Men’s domestic violence statistics are systematically ignored by leading anti-domestic violence organizations as if they aren’t relevant.

The National Coalition Against Domestic Violence provides the most popular statistics on its website: one in four women will experience domestic violence in their lives, 1.3 million women are assaulted by their partner every year and 85 percent of domestic violence is against women – criteria justifying the VAWA. Hundreds of advocacy groups fall in line with the same angle: suppressing or downplaying the men’s numbers.945ba-no2byou2bcan2527t2bsee2byour2bdaughter2b-2b2016

Due to this practice, many forget that significant amounts of domestic violence cases happen to both sexes as well as children. The same study that found that 1.3 million women were assaulted by their partner every year also found that 835,000 men fell victim to the same violence. Aggregate totals of more than 250 studies since the 1970s find that men and women nearly split partner violence rates halfway. One study in 2011 conducted by the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention found that 40 percent of severe, physical domestic violence cases were against men.

Misrepresenting relevant statistics has consequences. Significantly fewer studies include men and boys because few organizations are willing to provide funding for seemingly needless information. Domestic violence studies and policies are not created nor treated equal. A snowball effect enables biases and misunderstandings to grow.

In turn, policy is influenced in favor of women – the flagship legislation being the VAWA. But the VAWA doesn’t only feed off of misinterpreted statistics; audits by the Government Accountability Office discovered the bill breaks its own rules.

The audits found some organizations receiving the VAWA’s appropriations to have large portions of funding never reaching victims and many instances of spending against a grant’s intentions. Other audits even found embezzlement and outright fraud. These cases are covered up in the name of preventing violence against women.

Julie Borowski, a policy analyst at FreedomWorks, wrote how the $660 million annual budget’s lack of accountability measures opens the door for mishandled funds, possibly explaining why the program cannot take credit for reducing domestic violence rates.

We only support organizations who show an understanding that children need both parents, and that either parent is equally capable of the choice to perpetrate hate or declare peace.

“The real purpose of the VAWA is to shell out taxpayer dollars to liberal organizations that help elect Democrats – which is why the re-authorization passed out of committee on a straight party-line vote,”

Borowski said.

Democrat minority house leader Nancy Pelosi accepted her political gravy in a tweet, @NancyPelosi, “No woman should be forced to suffer abuse in silence.” Pelosi is absolutely right.

Still, the VAWA’s re-authorization should have addressed growing biases against men and boys and many other concerns. Rather, politicians seem more interested in taking advantage of domestic violence to gain political face than providing aid for all citizens. Politics continue to infiltrate social services.

Domestic violence is a real issue for women, children and men. Major policies need to better reflect that.

Jeff Bart is a senior in the College of Liberal Arts and can be reached at vio statistics - vawa 2015

Source: VAWA doesn’t only feed off of misinterpreted statistics

An obstacle in the on-going effort to rid the nation of domestic violence…factual errors and misrepresentations.

Victim-advocacy group Stop Abusive and Violent Environments warns that factual errors and misrepresentations in public education efforts sponsored by domestic violence organizations may represent an obstacle in the on-going effort to rid the nation of domestic violence. SAVE issues the alert in conjunction with Domestic Violence Awareness Month, which is observed in October each year.Judge Judy on Restraining Orders - 2016

The Partner Abuse State of Knowledge (PASK) project, a summary of over 1,700 domestic violence research studies, concludes that mutual abuse among partners is commonplace, and men and women engage in partner aggression at similar rates:

Despite the PASK findings, SAVE notes some domestic violence organizations continue to ignore the problem of mutual abuse and minimize female-initiated aggression: Some groups maintain that domestic violence is an expression of patriarchal power, a stance that ignores the plight of thousands of women caught in abusive same-sex relationships.Silver Bullet of Domestic Violence-Family Law -- 2016

The biased statements undergird shelter policies that allow male victims to be turned away. The informational errors also result in female offenders not being referred for anger management classes, substance abuse treatment, or other services:

“Domestic Violence Awareness Month is supposed to be about enhancing citizens’ understanding of domestic violence,” notes SAVE spokesperson Sheryle Hutter. “But groups that distort the truth are keeping us from ending the cycle of violence.”

Organizations receiving federal grants are prohibited from engaging in wasteful or fraudulent practices, according to the Department of Justice: Domestic violence services organizations are welcome to update their training materials and fact sheets based on SAVE’s Seven Key Facts About Domestic Violence: Accusers

Stop Abusive and Violent Environments is a victim-advocacy organization working for evidence-based solutions to domestic violence and sexual

“Groups that distort the truth are keeping us from ending the cycle of violence.” — S. Hutter, SAVE


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