Safety of Children in Florida ~ Letter to Governor Rick Scott

Safety of Children in Florida ~ Letter to Governor Rick Scott

An Open Letter To Mothers With Daughter’s

It’s time to break this cycle. Our children’s future depends on it.

Today, I want to focus on women who are in the midst of a divorce/ potential custody battle with the father who wants to co parent in a shared custody arrangement. I also want to talk about women who date emotionally unavailable men, who also find themselves constantly in a relationship with men who mistreat them. There is a reason for this. If you think you have just had a string of really bad luck, then my wish is that you take the time you truly deserve, and ask yourself why you are stuck in this cycle, of choosing men who hurt or reject you.

Dear Mothers of Daughter’s,

Before reading my article today, I want you to go back in memory to your childhood, and ask yourself, what kind of man was your father? We will come back to this a little later.

The reality is if you are reading this, half of you, grew up in a divorced home.

Unfortunately, we live in a world where the divorce rate succeeds marriage. Children often become the victims…

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The Tallahassee Thousand ~ Mark Your Calendars

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We are Fathers helping Fathers. We are parents helping parents. We are advocates dedicated to bringing a change to end fatherlessness in Florida.

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Broken Family Court System

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Ignorance is bliss in some scenarios, and as a father having been involved in a contentious divorce and custody ordeal it was a luxury I found myself longing for at times. Facing a situation where one’s back is against the wall, in a court environment overtly hostile towards those who represent themselves, as a pro se litigant is a place parents should venture with extreme caution. In my situation it came to a point where in keeping up with my own case at times I began to become curious and observe what I knew to be odd behavior and activity within the court and its players.

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Broward Sheriff’s Office Child Protective Investigations Section is in a state of crisis.

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Investigators say children’s safety at risk

FORT LAUDERDALE, Fla.Broward County is No. 1 in a category nobody wants to win, topping the state in the number of reported child abuse cases. With more than 15,000 cases a year, serious allegations are being made against the agency that handles those abuse complaints — the Broward Sheriff’s Office Child Protective Investigations Section, or CPIS, which many past and present investigators said is in a state of crisis.

“Absolutely children’s safety is at risk,”

…said one veteran investigator who recently left CPIS.

Christina Bullins, an agent for the International Union of Police Associations, which represents CPIS employees, said the union has heard complaints from about 50 investigators in the unit, starting with what she said are their staggering workloads. National standards for child protection investigators call for 12 cases at a time, but BSO records supplied to the union show that many of the BSO investigators are working double and triple that number, with three investigators working more than 40 cases each.

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Equal Time with parents is best for children of separation – divorce.

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Children of divorced parents are better adjusted when mom and dad get equal time with their kids. That is the conclusion and basis of a bill working its way through the Florida Legislature that would change the way courts calculate time-sharing when couples call it quits.

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“I didn’t like it. I didn’t think it was right. I didn’t think it was fair,” said Terrence Bostic.

It’s the way he felt 28 years ago when the court made, what Bostic felt, was an unfair assumption that his now ex-wife should be awarded primary custody of their daughter.

“Because I thought, ‘I was just as good a parent as she was, if not better.'”

Three years later, Bostic’s ex-wife moved away with their daughter. Three years after that, he went back to court to regain custody.

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Now, under a proposed change to Florida’s divorce law, judges may have a little leeway when giving divorcing parents anything other than equal time with their kids.

The assumption?

“That it is better for the children to have both parents equally involved in their lives,” said Family Law Attorney Peter Farren with the Valrico law firm, Gallo Farren.Courts must work toward a shared parenting norm – Miami Herald

Farren posted the proposed change on his Facebook page Wednesday, and spoke with us about the pros and cons such a law could present.

On one hand, he says, it would give parents – often the father – a presumption of a right to equal time with their kids.

“We’re definitely in different times now,” said Farren, “And these generations of fathers are just as involved, in many cases, with their children.”PAPA Florida

But critics say in some cases the law will force couples back to court, asking a judge to amend their equal-parenting plan for several possible reasons.

Work schedules. Challenges getting the kids to school.

There are also more serious factors to consider, said Farren. “If there’s a psychological issue, or a drug issue, or if one parent is just refusing to cooperate and communicate with the other parent.”

The Senate bill’s sponsor provides that judges weighing time share would still be able to use the same 20 criteria they currently have at their disposal to decide what’s in the children’s interest.

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The change, they say, would start with the presumption that an equal 50-50 split is what’s best.

“I think you can’t get any fairer than that,” said Bostic, it would’ve been a lot easier on me.”

The law would apply equally in cases where the parents are not married.

So far, the bill has moved its way through the State Senate, not get making its way to the House.

To see the full text of the proposed law, click here.

Supporters say equal time with parents is what’s best for children of divorce.

Source: Bill addresses equal parenting time for divorced couples

Child Custody for Fathers

i-am-dad-20152It has always been assume that that full custody would be given mostly to mothers but legally that is not the way it really works. Fathers have equal rights two having full custody of their children in the United States.

If you are a father who wants to get custody of your child you must prepare in the same way as if you were a mother.

The Family Court is WRONG!!You must prepare all documentation that shows all child support payments prior to your court hearing. You must prove that you are capable of providing for your child and that you are the best choice when it comes to your child.

In court always stay calm and refrain from any courtroom outburst. Your behavior can affect the outcome of your child custody dispute.

ce89b-i2bpromiseAs a father you must be able to demonstrate to the court Why you should have full custody of the child instead of the mother.

Shared custody or joint custody is usually given between parents unless one of the parents is unable to properly care for a child.

Let me tell you about Marriage - 2015If you have a good reason why you should have full custody of your child then you must be able to explain and back it up with proper documentation.

If you go to court and understand how custody disputes work by learning all the necessary information regarding child custody your chances of winning are good. That they key is to the laws in your state and know exactly everything that you need to do to win.

Don’t risk losing your children because you work well prepared when you went to court. Click the link below this video to get a free report on child custody disputes. 

Child Custody for Fathers

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Child Custody for Fathers

According to the Journal of Research in Crime and Delinquency, “The most reliable indicator of violent crime in a community is the proportion of fatherless families. Fatherless families, in turn, are caused in part by family courts that exclude fathers from post-divorce parenting. By instituting shared parenting after divorce or separation, fathers would be allowed to continue to show their sons the right way to grow into manhood.”Courts must work toward a shared parenting norm – Miami Herald

In the release, Dr. Ned Holstein, founder and board chair of National Parents Organization said: “Unfortunately, however, our nation’s family courts prevent millions of divorced and separated fathers from having meaningful relationships with their children, which only leave their children more vulnerable to this unfortunate behavior.”

“The repeat narrative is deeply troubling,” Holstein said. “An individual who grew up without the love and support of both parents turns to unfathomable, deadly gun violence. This must stop, and one piece of the solution is to ensure children have both parents intimately involved in their lives after separation or divorce… With this in mind, I urge legislators in all states to join the family court reform movement to make shared parenting the new status quo in our society, if both parents are fit and there has been no significant domestic violence.”

Well, now. I agree to most of what Holstein has to say about this serious matter. Courts must work toward a shared parenting norm – Miami HeraldBut not all boys who grew up without the love and support of both parents turn to “unfathomable deadly gun violence.” I know of one who grew up in a fatherless home, and became the president of the United States.

Still, as a single mom who raised two sons, I know how frustrating it can be for a mom who must work outside the home and still is expected to instill all the positive male values in her son or sons. It is a hard hill to climb. It is hard to know who to trust with your children. In my case, I turned to the pastor and other godly men at my church to help me with the upbringing of my sons. It was a blessing to me as well as to my sons. I realize, though, that this isn’t the case with a lot of women. It is hard to know who to trust with your children.

Courts must work toward a shared parenting norm – Miami HeraldWhile it is true our family courts must do more to move toward shared parenting whenever there is a divorce or separation in a family, an old saying comes to my mind concerning laws to make this possible: You can bring a horse to water, but you can’t make him drink. In other words, the lawmakers can make the law, but enforcing it is still something else. There is no law to make a person love his or her children. Love can’t be legislated. We simply have to trust the courts to do the right thing whenever the law is broken.

The bottom line is still this: “… Our children need both parents in their lives to thrive,” Holstein said. “For this reason, lawmakers in every state must move forward with family court reform as soon as possible.”

I spoke with Holstein, who lives in Massachusetts, by phone. He said strides are being made. Within the past year, at least 22 states — Florida included — have passed and implemented legislation supportive of shared parenting after divorce or separation whenever the parents are fit.

Source: Child Custody for Fathers

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