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Mediation and Agreed Orders ~ Your Only Hope in a Child Custody Case

The injustices that are perpetrated in divorce courts in the U.S. and many other countries.

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So many divorces, yet no one seems to notice how unjust they are, especially to the men. Most men–including legislators and judges–believe it is their duty to protect the poor woman and children at the cost of the men being divorced.

Perhaps they do not realize they are ruining the lives of these men along with our society and usually the women and children they are purporting to protect. Bringing this information into public view can hopefully create the social will to change it. Everyone can see the problems in society. Few are able to correlate the root cause.

Let’s face it. The deck is stacked in favor of the mothers. There is no such thing as equal parenting or doing what is in the “best interest of the children.” This is a moneymaker for government, lawyers, social workers the list goes on and on, at the ultimate expense of children. The truth is, they are not “family court” trials, they are kangaroo courtspersonal attacks and unscrupulous methods are used lawyers against parents in family court. In family court, parents can get dozens, even hundreds, of “trials,” if we count, as he does, every time an innocent parent is hauled into court without having committed any legal infraction and issued with some “order” about how he must conduct his private life if he wants to stay out of jail.

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Many parents are forced to appear in court on a regular basis, each time ordered to open their wallets to attorneys and pay other exorbitant “debts” they have done nothing to incur. Indeed, family court has so many ways to criminalize parents that they can just keep “trying” them until they are found guilty of something.

Do any of these numerous trials involve a jury? Is there ever a formal charge? Are parents ever declared innocent and left in peace? Or are these quickly improvised hearings, in which parents are barely permitted to speak before the judge takes away their children, confiscates their savings, seizes their homes, attaches their wages, and jails them without any semblance of what most Americans consider a fair trial or due process of law?

America’s family courts are ideologically driven kangaroo courts. These feminist tribunals are the shame of American justice. They are creating a police state that will only expand along with the federal funding that drives them until other media follow The Free Lance-Star and expose this appalling abuse of government power.

Closed Court precludes any balance analysis of proceedings and when Jack Straw as our one time Justice Minister attempted to ‘Open’ the Court, he was met by derision by the very Judges who should have been called to account. Camilla Cavendish, who won an award for her Family Law column in The Times, was one of the first Journalists to be invited into Family Court in Ipswich and it was clear to me that at that time the same safeguards put in place for sensitive criminal cases could apply to Civil Laws, i.e. Child A, Family XYZ or even a serial number Journalists could refer to a case when given out to news of Parliament. Judges either willingly or otherwise collude with Barristers and Solicitors in perpetuating this corruption where financial gain can be achieved by their Court, rarely do they benefit either party, least of all the children involved and due to the closed nature of these Courts there is no accountability (if you appeal is it likely one Judge will contradict another). Money is the fuel to injustice and closed courts hide this fact from public scrutiny!

Closed Court precludes any balance analysis of proceedings and when Jack Straw as our one time Justice Minister attempted to ‘Open’ the Court, he was met by derision by the very Judges who should have been called to account. Camilla Cavendish, who won an award for her Family Law column in The Times, was one of the first Journalists to be invited into Family Court in Ipswich and it was clear to me that at that time the same safeguards put in place for sensitive criminal cases could apply to Civil Laws, i.e. Child A, Family XYZ or even a serial number Journalists could refer to a case when given out to news of Parliament.
Judges either willingly or otherwise collude with Barristers and Solicitors in perpetuating this corruption where financial gain can be achieved by their Court, rarely do they benefit either party, least of all the children involved and due to the closed nature of these Courts there is no accountability (if you appeal is it likely one Judge will contradict another).
Money is the fuel to injustice and closed courts hide this fact from public scrutiny!

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What is Mediation and why does the Judge in my family court case want me to attend at least one time or even more than once?

Mediation is a process by which two people (and possibly their attorney’s) come together in a joint session with a Mediator. The parties usually start out together in the same room while opening remarks are made and then sometimes the parties move into separate rooms and finish the mediation in what is known as a caucus. The Mediator will act as a facilitator and go back and forth between the parties to try to reach a resolution. If a resolution is reached, then the agreement can be reduced to writing.

In family cases where there are minor children, the mediation is a wonderful opportunity to work out a weekly time sharing schedule, a vacation and holiday time sharing schedule, child support and every other issue…

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Daughter Begs Mom to Get a Family Law Lawyer

PARENTAL ALIENATION, PARENTAL ALIENATION DISORDER, PARENTAL ALIENATION SYNDROME “Abusive” Parents Alienate and Psychologically “Batter” Children In Alienation of Affection, Best Interest of the Child, child abuse, Child Custody, Child Support, Children and Domestic Violence, Childrens Rights, Civil Rights, Department of Social Servies, Divorce, Domestic Relations, False Allegations of Domestic Violence, Family Court Reform, Family Rights, Intentional Infliction of Emotional Distress, kidnapped children, Marriage, Munchausen Syndrome By Proxy, parental alienation, Parental Alienation Disorders, Parental Alienation Syndrome, Parental Kidnapping, Parents rights, Restraining Orders on December 8, 2009 at 9:45 pm Parents following divorce are called upon to cooperate with the other parent after divorce in case involving children.  Those parents who cannot put aside the anger, hate, and mental illness problems usually wind up “abusing” the children by alienating them from the the other parent. Alienation has been called a form of psychological “battering” of children.  For children that suffer from a custodial parent’s “battering“, I refer to an article from Jayne Major, Ph.D., an expert in the abuse that “abusive ” that accurately can describe the behavior of parents that commit Parental Alienation against a child” “The alienating parent’s hatred can have no bounds. The severest form will bring out every horrible allegation known, including claims of domestic violence, stalking and the sexual molestation of the child. Many fathers say that there have been repeated calls to the Department of Family and Child Services alleging child abuse and neglect. In most cases the investigators report that they found nothing wrong. However, the indoctrinating parent feels that these reports are not fabrications, but very, very real. She can describe the horror of what happen in great detail. Regardless of the actual truth, in her mind, it did happen. Most of the alienated fathers that I work with are continually befuddled by her lying. “How can she lie like that?” They don’t realize that these lies are not based on rational thinking. They are incapable of understanding the difference between what is true and what they want to be true. A vital part of fighting PAS is to understand the severity of the psychological disturbance that is the source of it.” For parents on the other end of this intense hatred from the “abusive” parent, most psychologist counsel being as actively involved with your children as possible, but sometimes, the psychological “battering” by the alienating parent eventually turns the child against the targeted parent. In some cases, the child loses all touch with reality, and becomes a carbon copy of the “abusive” parents and hates the everyone and the world. That is why is has become even more imperative that Parental Alienation, Parental Alienation Syndrome or even Parental Alienation Disorder (as it has been suggested) be included in the next version of the American Psychological Association DSM book. With recognition by the APA, children can get real help for their problems and can be psychologically rescued from “abusive” and parents that “batter.”

PARENTAL ALIENATION, PARENTAL ALIENATION DISORDER, PARENTAL ALIENATION SYNDROME
“Abusive” Parents Alienate and Psychologically “Batter” Children
In Alienation of Affection, Best Interest of the Child, child abuse, Child Custody, Child Support, Children and Domestic Violence, Childrens Rights, Civil Rights, Department of Social Servies, Divorce, Domestic Relations, False Allegations of Domestic Violence, Family Court Reform, Family Rights, Intentional Infliction of Emotional Distress, kidnapped children, Marriage, Munchausen Syndrome By Proxy, parental alienation, Parental Alienation Disorders, Parental Alienation Syndrome, Parental Kidnapping, Parents rights, Restraining Orders on December 8, 2009 at 9:45 pm
Parents following divorce are called upon to cooperate with the other parent after divorce in case involving children. Those parents who cannot put aside the anger, hate, and mental illness problems usually wind up “abusing” the children by alienating them from the the other parent.
Alienation has been called a form of psychological “battering” of children. For children that suffer from a custodial parent’s “battering“, I refer to an article from Jayne Major, Ph.D., an expert in the abuse that “abusive ” that accurately can describe the behavior of parents that commit Parental Alienation against a child”
“The alienating parent’s hatred can have no bounds. The severest form will bring out every horrible allegation known, including claims of domestic violence, stalking and the sexual molestation of the child. Many fathers say that there have been repeated calls to the Department of Family and Child Services alleging child abuse and neglect.
In most cases the investigators report that they found nothing wrong. However, the indoctrinating parent feels that these reports are not fabrications, but very, very real. She can describe the horror of what happen in great detail. Regardless of the actual truth, in her mind, it did happen.
Most of the alienated fathers that I work with are continually befuddled by her lying. “How can she lie like that?” They don’t realize that these lies are not based on rational thinking. They are incapable of understanding the difference between what is true and what they want to be true. A vital part of fighting PAS is to understand the severity of the psychological disturbance that is the source of it.”
For parents on the other end of this intense hatred from the “abusive” parent, most psychologist counsel being as actively involved with your children as possible, but sometimes, the psychological “battering” by the alienating parent eventually turns the child against the targeted parent. In some cases, the child loses all touch with reality, and becomes a carbon copy of the “abusive” parents and hates the everyone and the world.
That is why is has become even more imperative that Parental Alienation, Parental Alienation Syndrome or even Parental Alienation Disorder (as it has been suggested) be included in the next version of the American Psychological Association DSM book. With recognition by the APA, children can get real help for their problems and can be psychologically rescued from “abusive” and parents that “batter.”

My daughter, JJ, was angry—so much, it seemed she would reach up and shake the clouds until they thunder, and cold bullets of rain explode against the Earth.

 The day started out so well—sleeping in late, and cuddling up on the couch with bowels of cold cereal on our laps while we watched cartoons. Then visiting the grandparents she missed and repeatedly asked to see. JJ romped and played with her cousins in the bright afternoon sun. She splashed in the pool, and dried off jumping on the trampoline. Grandpa ordered a pizza for lunch, and we all dove in—cheese dripping off our fingers, our faces smeared with spicy tomato sauce signaled delight.

JJ didn’t want to leave. I couldn’t blame her—her father, Mr. X, decided that he doesn’t like my parents and has been actively working to keep my children separated from their maternal grandparents, basically all my relatives, and any connection to our heritage. This was especially cruel because Mr. X used to allow the children overnight visits with their grandparents.

My parents created a room in the house for the children—with bunk beds to sleep and a closet overflowing with toys. The dresser was filled with clothes my parents bought for my children. Even the kitchen cupboards were filled with brightly colored plastic plates in animal shapes, bottles of water, and healthy snacks for the kids—Grandpa made sure they ate organic, and drank purified water.
My children share a close, loving relationship with their grandparents; they suffer a tremendous amount of grief due to alienation and an unjust legal order tearing my family apart.

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Which brings me to the park… I left my parent’s home to bring my daughter and my toddler, RJ, to a museum. Time was running short, and JJ was a bit cranky so I drove to the park instead. Grandpa - 2016
It was a warm, sunny day and the playground was filled with noisy children. RJ ran happily toward the slide. JJ hung back, almost refusing to walk. She crossed her arms over her chest, tucked her chin down and wouldn’t look at me. When I asked JJ what was wrong she only replied in grumbling noises. JJ glared at the playground like I was dragging her into the pit of hell. I did my best to ignore her, and tried to remain upbeat, hoping some distraction would lift the clouds—to no avail. When I tried to talk to JJ she completely ignored me, and continued to grumble.

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RULES OF PROFESSIONAL CONDUCT FOR FLORIDA LAWYERS

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Chapter 4 of the Rules Regulating The Florida Bar

 
Excerpts from the Preamble: A Lawyer’s Responsibilities ~
“No disciplinary action should be taken when the lawyer chooses not to act or acts within bounds of such discretion….  The rules simply provide a framework for the ethical practice of law….. Violation of a rule should not give rise to a cause of action nor should it create any presumption that a legal duty has been breached…. They are not designed to be a basis for civil liability….  Accordingly, nothing in the rules should be deemed to augment any substantive legal duty of lawyers or the extra-disciplinary consequences of violating such duty.”
 
As one can see, these rules have very little significance in relation to the ethical conduct of members of The Florida Bar and Florida lawyers’ implied duty to the public as officers of the Court.  What the rules seem to give, the preamble nullifies with a few skillfully crafted sentences carefully embedded within it.  Therefore, these rules are apparently nothing more than window dressing to disguise an ugly and vile commercial industry that reaps its rewards from the miseries and misfortunes of others.  The Rules of Professional Conduct appear to be a cruel hoax upon the public which gives clients a false impression that the practice of law is honorable and ethical.  The Supreme Court of Florida  approved every word contained in these rules.  So, who do you believe the Court is really trying to protect–the client or the Florida lawyer?
If you feel the need to file an official complaint with The Florida Bar against a Florida lawyer, click here to get the official form.  This form is in Adobe Acrobat Format (PDF) so almost anybody can print it using their own computer and printer.  It is certainly a lot easier than getting someone at The Florida Bar to mail one to you.  Use the free Adobe Acrobat Reader software to print it or any other PDF document you encounter.  Download Acrobat Reader here if you do not already have it on your computer.
 
Before filing your complaint you should peruse the Rules of Professional Conduct and pick out the particular rules that were violated.  Cite the specific rules violated in your complaint and describe how they were violated.  Keep your complaint reasonably short and stay on point.  Attach additional pages and copies of documents, etc. that will help illustrate the rule violations.  It does no good to rant and rave even though it may feel good at the moment.
 
Good luck!
 
If you need to file a judicial complaint against a Florida judge or judicial officer click HERE.
 

An obstacle in the on-going effort to rid the nation of domestic violence…factual errors and misrepresentations.

Victim-advocacy group Stop Abusive and Violent Environments warns that factual errors and misrepresentations in public education efforts sponsored by domestic violence organizations may represent an obstacle in the on-going effort to rid the nation of domestic violence. SAVE issues the alert in conjunction with Domestic Violence Awareness Month, which is observed in October each year.Judge Judy on Restraining Orders - 2016

The Partner Abuse State of Knowledge (PASK) project, a summary of over 1,700 domestic violence research studies, concludes that mutual abuse among partners is commonplace, and men and women engage in partner aggression at similar rates: http://domesticviolenceresearch.org/

Despite the PASK findings, SAVE notes some domestic violence organizations continue to ignore the problem of mutual abuse and minimize female-initiated aggression: www.saveservices.org/camp/truth/. Some groups maintain that domestic violence is an expression of patriarchal power, a stance that ignores the plight of thousands of women caught in abusive same-sex relationships.Silver Bullet of Domestic Violence-Family Law -- 2016

The biased statements undergird shelter policies that allow male victims to be turned away. The informational errors also result in female offenders not being referred for anger management classes, substance abuse treatment, or other services: http://www.saveservices.org/downloads/VAWA-Has-It-Delivered-on-Its-Promises-to-Women

“Domestic Violence Awareness Month is supposed to be about enhancing citizens’ understanding of domestic violence,” notes SAVE spokesperson Sheryle Hutter. “But groups that distort the truth are keeping us from ending the cycle of violence.”

Organizations receiving federal grants are prohibited from engaging in wasteful or fraudulent practices, according to the Department of Justice:http://www.ojp.usdoj.gov/financialguide/PDFs/OCFO_2012FinancialGuide.pdf Domestic violence services organizations are welcome to update their training materials and fact sheets based on SAVE’s Seven Key Facts About Domestic Violence: http://www.saveservices.org/key-facts/False Accusers

Stop Abusive and Violent Environments is a victim-advocacy organization working for evidence-based solutions to domestic violence and sexual assault:www.saveservices.org

“Groups that distort the truth are keeping us from ending the cycle of violence.” — S. Hutter, SAVE

PRESS RELEASE: http://bit.ly/17p7Xmz

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