I am an alienator. You know me well. You lived with me once and you witnessed my behavior patterns but you did not spend time studying and internalizing them. I know your behavior patterns better than you know them yourself. I know how to measure you, test you and control you. I know what your hooks are and I know that the depth of the love for your children is a weakness I can exploit. I am an emotional terrorist. I will terrify you into submission. You will do as I tell you to do, if you do not, I will take your children away.
I am an alienator, you didn’t notice that when we lived together but I began my work long before we went our separate ways. I created fissures and fractures within our family and I managed and manipulated reality, though for a long time you did not notice that.
I am an alienator, at times in the past you felt a chill wind blow through you when my moods changed as I raged and then sweet talked you to smooth the ripples in your growing awareness. My mind is distorted but the projection of shadows causes you to believe it is yours which has failed you. Eventually you came to believe that it was you and not I who was crazy. You shivered as I turned down the gas light.
When you appeal to the outside world for assistance I will turn my most charming face to the sun and open my arms wide and beseech them to believe that I only want the best for my children. I will widen my eyes and up turn my palms and say ‘what can I do when they don’t want to see you’ and suck into my airspace all those who attempt to bring change to the lives of the weapons I know I can use.
My children are assets, collateral, extensions of plans that I make to wreak my revenge upon people who challenge my views or attempt to remove the control that I have in my life.
…is what Fidel Castro told the court that sentenced him to fifteen years for a failed coup attempt prior to his successful overthrow of the Cuban government. Pardoned and exiled, Castro returned and executed a successful coup against the Batista regime.
History has not absolved Castro.
History will condemn him.
The philosopher Ayn Rand wrote that there can be no rights without property rights, and history and Castro and Cuba have been a microcosm of her proof.
Our community is populated by Cuban ex-patriots whose only crimes was the ownership of property, the running of a business, and education.
When Castro imposed his dictatorship on Cuba, the doctors, lawyers, engineers, farm owners, and merchants were the first to flee torture, imprisonment, theft of their homes and businesses, and murder. Those who could not own the rights to their abilities would not stay in a society founded on altruist-collectivism.
“From each according to his ability to each according to his need“ cannot succeed when those with ability refuse to serve those with need.
Cuba today is an economic and ecological disaster. The farms cannot produce because the land hasn’t been taken care of. Knowledgeable farmers who had their land confiscated “for the people” left. With farm production falling, there was little to sell and GDP fell. With his country teetering on economic collapse, Castro moved Cuba into the Soviet sphere, where the Soviets propped up the Cuban economy for the next forty years until the Soviet Union collapsed. With no sponsor for his communist state, Cuba fell into economic collapse in the 1990’s; its people starving and its economy anemic.
Today Cuba is a county frozen in time. Cars and households and infrastructure remain frozen in 1959. The country cannot produce money to do more than barely feed its citizens. Technology is almost unheard of. There is nothing that Cuba produces that is new or enviable. Even its tobacco farms have fallen into fallow.
History has spoken. The Cuban revolution and communist dictatorship have failed. Hundreds of thousands of good people had their property stolen. There are no free elections, and in 2016 the country teeters without basic technology on the brink of economic collapse.
There are not many things that we can accurately predict, but this is a one hundred percent given: in days, weeks, months or even a few more years, Cuba’s totalitarian
communism and Fidel Castro will be consigned to the ash-heap of history.
Soviet Premiere Khrushchev once famously told a group of western diplomats “we will bury you.”
Cuba is burying Fidel.
And the world will soon bury Cuban totalitarian communism.
Urgent support of key reform legislators needed NOW
You can help put the right people there!
Who will be sitting in Tallahassee? You can help put the right people there!
Our mission this coming legislative session will be to, once again, educate educate, educate. Politics are cyclical and there has been a major overhaul to the political landscape. There is a new legislature coming to Tallahassee. Republicans have their back against the wall, but should still hold ground. There will be about 60 new House Reps and 10 new Senators that will need education from the ground up as to the need for alimony reform.
This can be an energizing moment for us if we double down instead of fading away. We must support Senator Kelli Stargel‘s campaign and donate at www.VoteStargel.com. If we show support, then she should support us once again in the Senate. She has taken a tremendous amount of heat over the years of her support of alimony reform. We have to ask her to continue to support us in the Senate.
We also must support and donate to State Rep Colleen Burton at www.ColleenBurton.com . Colleen has learned about this issue and is ready to, once again, support us. She likes the challenge, but must get re-elected to be able to do so. I believe David Santiago of Volusha County will help co-sponsor our bill in the House with Colleen. He decided not to run for Congress because he didn’t want to get in the way of Rubio’s run and the fallout with other Congress front runners. They will make a good team…if Colleen wins.
Nov 15th general election is big news for Florida. Our State will have many newcomers and some old timers. We will have our work cut out for us and will need to organize our districts and put members in charge of contacting the politicians in those districts.
Do your part today so you can enjoy freedom in the future.
Dear Family Law Reform Members:
I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again. It’s amazing to me just how political our divorce law really has become. It doesn’t seem that our law is based on what is fair, but instead who wields the most political power in our Legislature. This upcoming session is going to be very challenging for alimony reform. Key issues that our Legislators face will include economic development, health care, LGBT rights, education and the environment. In order to get a bill for alimony reform in the mix, we will have to make certain that all of our key legislators are on board.
The November election will decide if the GOP maintains its super-majority hold on 80 seats in the 120 member House. I have been following the trends, and I will tell you that I’m not all that certain that this will occur. The outcome of the race could be swayed, in part, by how well presidential candidates Hillary Clinton and Donald Trump get their parties’ voters to the polls. If Hillary can win, and win by (a) two-, three-, four-, five-point victory, then a lot of ballot races may go Democratic. Conversely, if Trump can keep it close or if he can win … then the opposite will be true and a lot of these ballot races will go Republican.
If you have been a part of this alimony reform movement over the years, you have seen voting occur on party lines, with a few outlanders on both sides of the fence. Whether you personally vote Democrat or Republican, it is better for our goal of alimony reform if our legislature is Republican focused as many of the Democrats seem to have a view that entitlements are justified.
We have a proposed bill that has been reviewed and approved by the Family Section of the Florida Bar as well as many Legislators. As a Financial Advisor and a Certified Divorce Financial Analyst, I have worked closely over many years with leaders of the Family Section, our Legislators, and the Executive Board of Family Law Reform to help negotiate the terms, values, and ideals of this proposal. While it doesn’t accomplish everything we want, it certainly provides relief and more importantly, gives permanent alimony payers hope for a future free from the bondage of their alimony payments.
We mustn’t let the political landscape stop our efforts for alimony reform. If anything, we must push harder to show our resolve and our determination for reform. We can’t let the Family Section win by allowing current law to maintain its place in our society. Change is necessary; change is needed; and change will occur as long as we don’t give up. The highest court in the land is the land of public opinion. We must make our voices heard and continue toward achieving our goal of alimony reform.
If we let up, we lose. We will not lose…and we will not let up!!
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The Constitutional Right of Parents to the Care, Custody and Nurturing of their Children.
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Below are excerpts of case law from state appellate and federal district courts and up to the U.S. Supreme Court, all of which affirm, from one perspective or another, the absolute Constitutional right of parents to actually BE parents to their children.
The rights of parents to the care, custody and nurture of their children is of such…
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Yes. They Shoot the Messenger in Child Custody/Access Cases | Gary Direnfeld, MSW, RSW
A parent called me asking for me to provide an assessment. I explained I do not provide court involved services anymore and explained why. The caller asked for a referral to someone who did. I offered the name of a respected colleague.
The caller emailed thereafter and included in the email messages that had been posted about the colleague on the Internet. The postings portrayed my colleague quite terribly. The caller wanted to understand how I could refer to such a person. My reply was this: