We held a demonstration at the Delray Beach Courthouse, based largely on the investigative reporting of Palm Beach Post’s John Pacenti.
Check out his report on our demonstration. We followed the next day with a demonstration at the North County Courthouse.
Since re-incorporating this year, our members have become very active. Along with court-watches, we have joined the Non-Profit Chamber of Palm Beach County. Through them, we have become aware of many organizations with goals and needs overlapping ours. We will be reporting our outreach from now on, much of which is initiated through this chamber.
Here is Sheri’s report on a workshop she attended along with Sheila: Workshop on Child Abuse–Preventing, Recognizing, and Responding
Thanks for visiting our site! Like most individuals you have probably come to our site for one primary reason. You are looking for answers to a specific Fathers rights family law problem. Let me assure you that you’ve come to the right place. We have the answers you need!
The subject of this article is “Why Do Men Lose In Family Court?” I have spent the last 23 years attempting to answer this question. After considerable research, case evaluations and client interviews I believe I now have the answer.
Twenty three years ago I went through a brutal divorce. Actually, at the time of divorce we were very friendly with one another and agreed to settle out of court. My Ex-wife, through a paralegal filed for divorce and like most men I simply agreed to the terms. I walked away with nothing! I surrendered the house, ($40,000.00 in equity) the boat, the car, furniture etc. etc…Everything I had acquired in 13 years of marriage was suddenly gone. We had three children and I wanted them to have the benefit of these items. Although I didn’t realize it at the time I could have and should have made better agreements that would have benefited all members of my family in a much greater way.
Looking back I simply didn’t know what a good agreement was or how to make the deal. I was so concerned about maintaining a good relationship with my ex that I avoided anything that might have resulted in a legal battle. I should have filed my response with the court and requested an equitable division of property, custody, visitation and a support order that was based on my Real income. In general I should have been more attentive to the legal issues. This was truly a mistake!
Like most men I had adopted the common belief that men always lose in divorce proceedings so why not just surrender everything now and avoid the inevitable. What I didn’t realize at the time was that I wasn’t doing anyone any favors by surrendering everything to my ex-wife. Ignorantly giving up my property caused my wife to develop a false confidence in the legal system that would soon allow her to sue me again and again and again. Like many women she understood the prevailing thought of men that they always lose in family court and she capitalized on this belief. Therefore it didn’t matter any longer how much I had given to her the fact that I didn’t know what I was doing was extremely obvious.
Despite everything I had surrendered, ignorantly failing to make fair and equitable agreements at the time of my departure from the family home was a colossal mistake and was a personal invitation for her to sue me later. I would in time realize that money and property are no substitute for a well-written, fair and equitable agreement of ALL issues. Like the American Express advertisement declares “Don’t leave home without it!”