Sole custody is harmful to children

Children in joint custody arrangements had less behavior and emotional problems, had higher self-esteem, better family relations and school performance than children in sole custody arrangements. And these children were as well-adjusted as intact family children on the same measures, said Bauserman, "probably because joint custody provides the child with an opportunity to have ongoing contact with both parents."  These findings indicate that children do not actually need to be in a joint physical custody to show better adjustment but just need to spend substantial time with both parents, especially with their fathers, said Bauserman. Also, joint custody couples reported less conflict, possibly because both parents could participate in their children's lives equally and not spend the time arguing over childcare decisions. Unfortunately a perception exists that joint custody is more harmful because it exposes children to ongoing parental conflict. In fact, the studies in this review found that sole-custody parents reported higher levels of conflict.  It is important to recognize that the results do not support joint custody in all situations. When one parent is abusive or neglectful or has a serious mental or physical health problem, sole-custody with the other parent would clearly be preferable,

Children in joint custody arrangements had less behavior and emotional problems, had higher self-esteem, better family relations and school performance than children in sole custody arrangements. And these children were as well-adjusted as intact family children on the same measures, said Bauserman, “probably because joint custody provides the child with an opportunity to have ongoing contact with both parents.”
These findings indicate that children do not actually need to be in a joint physical custody to show better adjustment but just need to spend substantial time with both parents, especially with their fathers, said Bauserman. Also, joint custody couples reported less conflict, possibly because both parents could participate in their children’s lives equally and not spend the time arguing over childcare decisions. Unfortunately a perception exists that joint custody is more harmful because it exposes children to ongoing parental conflict. In fact, the studies in this review found that sole-custody parents reported higher levels of conflict. It is important to recognize that the results do not support joint custody in all situations. When one parent is abusive or neglectful or has a serious mental or physical health problem, sole-custody with the other parent would clearly be preferable,

Why are shared care arrangements good for children? Why must the courts address parental alienation? Why is leave to remove invariably not in a child’s best interests? Why are overnights not harmful for very young children? Why is the traditional model of alternate weekend contact arrangements insufficient as a post separation child arrangements model?

The answers are in a wide body of research which should (but does not) form the basis of policy on post-separation child arrangements. If it did, shared parenting arrangements would be the norm.

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Spending Time With Your Children

time-coverDo parents spend enough time with their kids?

That was the question The Post’s Brigid Schulte posed in her story about a groundbreaking new study, which found it’s how you spend your time, not how much, that has the biggest impact on kids.KCFC Seal

Put your kids’ interests first

Even if you are battling loneliness and depression, you need to do everything you can to prioritize the interests of your kids to make the season special.

“It’s very important that we don’t share depression and pain and anxiety about the holidays with our kids,” said Child-Centered Divorce Network founder Rosalind Sedacca. “They’re going through their own drama and the last thing we want to do is add any pain and confusion and hurt they have.”

Start by approaching your children with compassion and allow them to express their emotions.

“Let your kids vent about their feelings, their anxieties and apprehensions and frustrations and regrets and acknowledge what they’re feeling when they’re sharing that with you,” Sedacca said. “Don’t make them wrong. … What you want to do is really open that door to letting your kids know they can trust you and it’s OK for them to say whatever they say even if you don’t like hearing it.”

Once you’ve had that discussion, start focusing on ways to still make the holidays special in their new living arrangement.

What does it take to raise happy, healthy, productive kids today? The number one thing is your time and attention. In a previous video, we outlined a few of the things it takes to get close to your kids so they will thrive. In this video, we show you a bit of what we do for one-on-one time with our kids. We spend quality one-on-one time with each of our kids. That special attention each one receives is really appreciated by each of the children. It is so important for you to spend this quality one-on-one time wth your kids!
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Maximizing Time With Your Kids

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Well it’s the holiday’s folks and you know what that means: lots of food, relatives you may only seen once or twice a year and that tornado of wrapping paper left in the wake of presents being unwrapped while parents desperately cling to their coffee cups. For some however, the holidays can be a stressful time if you’re not getting the time you need with your children. The holidays are about coming together; spending time with loved ones can take on a whole new meaning if you’re cut off from them. For parents that are split up it’s even harder to juggle who gets to be with who on Christmas day. If you’re finding yourself stressing about how much time you’ll get to spend with your kids this holiday season, here are some tips to help maximize the time you spend together.

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